There are times when I can’t enjoy things. Sometimes I’m just sad or depressed. Often not really knowing why. It can be something what have happened or what didn’t happen. These time can be consuming mentally and socially. And even if I knew what the problem is there I have no strength to make the changes needed to ease the burden. I have no diagnosed depression or any mental illnesses that I know of. But I believe that there are times in everyones lifes when they feel depressed. Often these times comes with big changes in life. Some are positive changes and others are negative.
Positive changes can be new job, marriage, having a baby or finishing school. Every one of these life events can trigger some sort of chaos in mind. New things bring stress with it, new responsibilities and maybe the need to learn new skills.
Negative changes and events too much work, financial problems, include unembloyment, accidents, sickness, divorce, forceful moving to a different city (a problem often overlooked by parents when moving with children), death of a relative. All these events cause a injury in mental health. It’s not like a broken leg, which you could see, but never the less mind is broken. Mind needs time to heal. Many times talking is one of the best treatments for mental injuries.
Mental stress stack up like being covered with dust. At first you might not even notice it but as time goes and more mental stress comes you find yourself sad, powerless and depressed. And maybe you don’t know why. Sadness comes and goes and it’s part of life. It just can be so overwhelming. I just hope we could take the time to process the changes and crisises and to mourn our losses. I hope we could understand that our minds needs to be taken care of just like our bodies.
There are ways to prevent too much mental stress and to ease the mind from stress. About that later.
What do you think? Do you have same kind of feelings?
There are two sides fighting in me all the time. I do tell people who visit me and need advice or help in their lifes that their life as it is is precious and enough. But when I look a me, in the other hand I think that I’m enough, but in the other hand I need to get better. Better as an artist, as a man, as a husband, as a parent, as a friend, as a musician or a singer as a choir leader. I have this need to get better or be better or do better. I do believe that the need to do better makes me better but I do want to think that where I am no, is fundamentaly enough. That is what I want to message other people too. They are enough.
There is always a possibility to get better or be more or do more. Sometimes I tend to try too much and be too much or I do too much to get better in a short amount of time. It can be very stressful. That’s why I write this post. So this over-achieving could slow down. In me and maybe in others who need to slow down a little. I know that there is so much to do in life and so little time. There is always tomorrow or next year. Well when you start thinking that way you may drift to procrastination and that’s no good either. There have to be a balance. But how to achieve that. And now I start to think how to rest most effictively so I could do more work and gain best results. That’s no good.
Being enough as a person and doing enough with the strenght you have should be enough. You should be enough for the people around you and for the rest of us too. Developing your skills and craft and working hard should be something you really want and it shouldn’t be a measurement for how good person you are. There is this constant fight going on still. Even in something what I think of fun time and leasurement like gaming have achiements and skill development.
There has to be a time and place for total relaxation. A state of mind when you don’t have to do anything or have to look after anyone or have any responsibilities what so ever. I really see difficulties to get this state especially with single-parents who have small children or with people who have many responsibilities in work and other parts of their life, like taking care of their parents. It’s like a rubber band which is constantly streched and never released, it’ll eventually break.
I hope everyone have the opportunity to have responsibility-free time and if you know someone who hasn’t please help them out. Sometimes you only need a little help to carry on with daily chores.
Other thing that helps to get away from responsibilities and stress is other people. It’s easier to relax when you are surrounded with a group of friends. This is why I really encourage my wife to go out with her girlfriends. It’s really important to loosen that rubber band occasionally. If your friend or loved one is really stressed and don’t have the strength to go out and hang with friends, please advice her/him to go anyway. It’s usually refreshing especially when you have small children in the house.
It’s sometimes difficult to find that balance between knowing you are enough the way you are and trying more and getting better at doing your stuff. It sure is important to say to people that they indeed are important and to think that you are important too.
Sometimes I feel that the world is ill. Sometimes I feel the world is beautiful. Sometimes I feel the world is still. The world is big and the world is small. We are important and we are nothing at the same time. I’m important and I’m nothing. Knowing that gives me peace.
There isn’t anything more beautiful and wonderful than a human being in this world. But no one isn’t more important than other human. It really fascinates me how we look so different and the same and still equally beautiful. And here I really think that every single human being is beautiful in it’s own right. Yes we could discuss about beauty standards and who look beautiful in my opinion. It’s rather long topic but to put it short I think that human being is beautiful in every stage of its life. This is something people forget. I really don’t think that making self look beautiful is bad. Quite the opposite. We choose how we look and that’s good.
There is so much going on in our heads. And that makes the world seem ill or beautiful or something else. Yes there are many things to be done about crisis, poverty, racism, sickness, greed… list is long, but we can do something about those and still see the world as a beautiful place. We just need to open our eyes, open our hearts and listen. Usually happiness is with friends and family.
Are we in a world that is ill or beautiful is really up to us. Do we do anything to get the world a better place. It doesn’t have to be in grand scale, maybe just within small community or a small town. And simply put, we should listen. Even it’s something we don’t want hear. Just listen. You don’t have to agree. Just listen and try to understand. Then you can tell your opinion. This is the way to good relationships, friendships and pretty much any communications.